I really enjoyed listening to this interview. Dilys was very influential during my training as a child psychotherapist in the 1990s. Being part of the then ‘Under Five’s workshop’ at the Tavistock Clinic, coordinated by Dilys and Juliet Hopkins, was a great inspiration, and has directed my work ever since.
In this interview, Dilys emphasizes that for some parents “just telling the story .. is all that’s needed”. She suggests “simply saying ‘How was it for you?’” to encourage them to tell that story – underlining the importance of being curious and giving space to the parents’ narrative.
I am concerned that this attachment-informed approach, taking account of parental experience/trauma and what ‘ghosts’ or ‘angels’ in the nursery may be being brought to bear on the parent-infant relationship, is still something of a novelty in many CAMHS and perinatal services. More IMH awareness-raising work to be done!